The story of our life is constructed in the mind and serves us with a context of continuity and a sense of self. We relate to our ego, our name, our social and any other status - in short our place within the world - through our story.
Every story has a beginning and an end, and to ensure that, we have to put it into a coordinate system defined by space and time. The story needs to start at a determined point in time and space. As no two people can be born at the exact same time AND place, each storyline is unique.
Every human being encompasses both genders, that of the masculine and that of the feminine principle. One of these principles is usually more dominant in human beings than the other.
The nature of the masculine principle is that of the mind dominance ruled by logic, and the nature of the feminine principle, is that of the dominance of the intuition.
The dominant inner gender principle doesn´t necessarily depends on, or reflects the physically manifested sex of a person. For instance, somebody born as a woman can have a dominant inner masculine principle and a person born as a man can very well have a dominant inner feminine principle. Also, as a person goes through his/her life story, different impulses from the environment and different experiences, might influence, increase or decrease a given dominant side and even change it. This depends entirely on the person´s current state of personal truth.
The true gender of a person is determined by the inner proportions of the two principles.
Within the context of duality, any given dominant gender has the tendency to seek its opposite dual pole, in order to establish balance and to make sense of itself within that balance. The masculine principle contrasts and balances itself with the feminine principle and vice versa.
In most cases the sex of a person coincides with his/her dominant inner gender, but it isn´t necessarily so, and even if it is, as said before, this - as everything in the universe - is subject to constant change. The manifested sex of the body is not the decisive component in the question of gender dominance. It is just a reflection of an initial state.
A male person, who has a masculine dominant inner gender, might look for a female person with a feminine dominant inner gender. In optimal circumstances they will establish a perfectly balanced union and live happily ever after. Except, it is not that black and white as it seems.
The soul or the higher self is the realm of the intuition. It is where feelings are born. We relate to our story by our feelings. If it wasn't so, the story per se wouldn't be of much meaning to us whatsoever. When we feel a feeling, and our mind adds its logic to it, the combination results in an emotion. The emotion embedded into the current stage of a given life story, is what we commonly call a human experience.