Every human being encompasses both genders, that of the masculine and that of the feminine principle. One of these principles is usually more dominant in human beings than the other.
The dominant inner gender principle doesn´t necessarily depends on, or reflects the physically manifested sex of a person. For instance, somebody born as a woman can have a dominant inner masculine principle and a person born as a man can very well have a dominant inner feminine principle. Also, as a person goes through his/her life story, different impulses from the environment and different experiences, might influence, increase or decrease a given dominant side and even change it. This depends entirely on the person´s current state of personal truth.
The true gender of a person is determined by the inner proportions of the two principles.
Within the context of duality, any given dominant gender has the tendency to seek its opposite dual pole, in order to establish balance and to make sense of itself within that balance. The masculine principle contrasts and balances itself with the feminine principle and vice versa.
In most cases the sex of a person coincides with his/her dominant inner gender, but it isn´t necessarily so, and even if it is, as said before, this - as everything in the universe - is subject to constant change. The manifested sex of the body is not the decisive component in the question of gender dominance. It is just a reflection of an initial state.
A male person, who has a masculine dominant inner gender, might look for a female person with a feminine dominant inner gender. In optimal circumstances they will establish a perfectly balanced union and live happily ever after. Except, it is not that black and white as it seems.
Adaptation and adjustment:
Human beings are very flexible and tend to adapt to circumstances even if that goes against their own nature. That means also, that we intend to adapt and create balance in our relationships even if that means that we need to repress parts of our self or compensate parts our partner lacks.
Therefore, a balanced relationship, in that both partners complete each others inner gender in a perfect way, is very difficult to achieve. It would require to find the perfectly pitched opposite match with the perfectly pitched opposite inner gender dominance we have. In such a perfectly optimal relationship we would be able to experience the whole of our own gender dominance, contrast and experience it to its full extent and become balanced individuals in a perfectly balanced relationship. This however is very rare.
What often happens, is that partners, once together, adjust to each other in order to create a balanced relationship. In some cases such adjustments work fine, but in many other cases, these adjustments have a high cost, as they makes one of the partners, or even both of them go against their own nature.
If partners have to compensate for each other in ways that are against their own nature, thanks to those compensations it will indeed still create balance within the relationship, however that balance will be at the cost of the inner balance of the partner who saw him/herself obliged to compensate. I call this kind of balance an “enforced balance”. It makes the relationship go on, but the individual development of either partners or even both of them will most likely stagnate, which will eventually lead to the dissolution, or at least a strong erosion of that enforced balance.
Similarity such enforced balance can happen in the case of a single parent, who is forced to assume the roles both that of a mother and a father to a child. If its achieved, it will to an extent create balance between parent and child, but due to the compensations they both will have to make, it will perhaps be at the cost of their personal inner balance.
A person who happened to be born a man but has a feminine dominant inner gender, will look for a person with a masculine dominant inner gender. It is possible, that he will find that dominant masculine inner gender in another man, and not in a woman, and will that way establish the contrast and balance he needs. Although seemingly these unions happen between two people of the same sex, it isn´t really so. From a spiritual point of view it doesn´t matter how a person encounters the balance in that he/she as a person can thrive and progress, as long as he/she doesn't force others to live in circumstances that disagree with their inner truth or disrespect it. What is really important, is that the person can grow and progress in his/her own integral way.
Inner gender balance doesn't necessarily requires a partner. Some people prefer to adjust balance within themselves and experience their inner gender in a non dominant, more neutral way. Again, this is a choice aligned with ones inner truth.
Adaptation, involving repression and compensation of our inner gender is a very common problem in our effort to create balanced relationships.
The integrity of a person depends largely on exploring, understanding and accepting their own inner gender - regardless of their apparent, physically manifested gender. When outer circumstances repress the inner gender, that will always result in inner disalignment in a person.
The outer perception shall not condition the inner truth.
Mutual respect of other peoples choices of how they wish to explore and experience their inner gender is very important if we want to live in a sustainable, thriving and respectful society. It is an essential need of all human beings to be recognized and respected within their natural gender choices. For that we need to establish a non repressive society of mutual acceptance and respect, in that people are not afraid to express themselves and live their lives according to their deepest inner truth.